My boyfriend stops taking his meds. He has schizophrenia.
He has been locked 20 times. He is very fearful of getting locked up in the “HOSPITAL” aka “ nut house”.
We have lived together for 10 years and we are fine.
When he was on his full dose of meds, he didn’t talk much.
One thanksgiving we went to have dinner with family and he didn’t utter a word. Not hi, by, or anything.
It was kinda uncomfortable. The awkwardness was the elephant in the room.
So we talked about it. We pinpointed the issue. It was the meds.
So he started slowly cutting them back. The result was he started talking. He has been cutting them down for a while. Now he has started talking a lot. As a geek, he can go a long time talking about things that are kinda over my head.
He wants to experience having a drug-free brain.
That takes a team. When he talks a long time about something very detailed and deep, I simply say I need a short break.
It is about letting him gauge when listeners are getting any. All is going well. He is now very mindful of conversations.
This dude is very smart and kind. He deserves a right to try a drug-free brain. his meds have some negative effects. He is scared all the time that his mom will lock him up.
In over 10 years I have only met her once. I tell him not to be nervous. “We got this”. We are doing well. THEY CAN’T TOUCH HIM!
